Stop Staring at a Blank Message Box.

Know Exactly What to Send.

The First Message Toolkit: Men's Edition. Ready-to-send openers and replies for dating apps, from the first message to asking her out.

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You matched. Now what?

Most guys get stuck at the very first message, then lose the conversation before they ever ask her out. You don't need to be a smooth talker. You just need to know what to send.

What's inside

  • The Opener Formula: Notice, Add, Invite. A simple pattern that works for any profile
  • 30 ready-to-send openers for 10 profile types: travel, pets, food, hobbies, music and shows, funny bios, app prompts, short profiles, work, and shared interests
  • A three-step pattern and scripts for what to say when she replies
  • 15 light messages that keep the chat going
  • What to do with short, slow, or low-effort replies, and when to let a chat go
  • Six ways to lead into asking her out, plus what to say if she hesitates
  • A plain-text copy sheet, so you can copy scripts straight from your phone

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Who this is for

  • Men on dating apps who get matches but don't know what to say first
  • Guys whose chats fizzle out after a few messages
  • Anyone who tends to wait too long to ask her out, or never asks at all

What this is (and isn't)

This toolkit helps you know what to send and keep the conversation friendly. It can't guarantee a reply or a date, because that part is up to her. Every script is a starting point, and it's built around being genuine and respecting her answers, including a "no."

Pair it with the Text Message Toolkit

Once she says yes, the Text Message Toolkit for Dating: Men's Edition picks up where this one ends. It covers what to send while you wait for the date, what to do if she goes quiet or reschedules, and what to say after.

See the Text Message Toolkit

Built from real conversations

I'm Erica, a dating coach for men. I built this toolkit from conversations with real men about what's hard once you've matched, so you can skip the guesswork and send with confidence.

What you get

  • The First Text Toolkit (PDF, 8 pages)
  • The plain-text Copy Sheet
  • Instant download after checkout

Launch price: $17

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FAQ

  • Will this get me a date? No toolkit can promise that. It helps you open well, keep the conversation going, and ask with confidence.
  • Does it work on any dating app? Yes. The scripts are written for dating apps in general, and every one has blanks you fill in from her profile.
  • Will the scripts sound fake? They're frameworks, not lines to recite. Each one has blanks for your details, and the toolkit tells you to change a word or two so it sounds like you.
  • What if she doesn't reply? There's a section on short, slow, and quiet replies, including when to let a chat go.
  • What's your refund policy? This is a digital product, so all sales are final. Please read the description above before you buy.